Sent: Monday, April 14, 2008 12:09 AM
Subject: Inquiry from HealingCrystals.com - Discount Prices on Healing Crystals, Minerals & Tumbled Stones
I just placed my first order and I can't wait to receive it!
I am amazed at how God works in mysterious ways! I have bought crystals and stones and I like to meditate, spend time outdoors with Mother Earth. I ask God to send his Angels and surround my family and myself. I like to bother Archangel Michael and Raphael a lot, they are truly awsome.
My oldest daughter is going thru a stage is her life where her self-esteem is very low. My baby had to take a back seat when my middle son was diagnosed with Leukemia and I feel responsible for not being there for her like I should have. I have tried talking to her and she doesn't want to hear me. Her friends only use her and when I tell her something she gets angry. She is a beautiful young lady and everytime I tell her how pretty she is, she answers yeah right or whatever. She can be rebelious and she keeps her feelings bottled up, tremendous mood swings and too much insecurity. I want to help her but I don't want to invade her space. I am hoping that there is something I can do to help her. I ordered some stones for her zodiac sign which is Cancer. She has asked me to teach her how to meditate and I have. Sophie is 16 years old and she is a wonderful daughter, please let me know what I can do, Thank you and God Bless You!
Thank you for your order and for your email. I have to mention here that I am not a psychologist and cannot give professional advice. However, I have been in a similar situation as your daughter, and I may be able to give you a new perspective regarding what your daughter is going through. The teen years can be exceedingly difficult for many of us to go through, even within the perfect familial environment. For different reasons, I suffered a lack of attention from my parents when I was younger. As I got older and sadder, I remember my mother telling me I was pretty and that I should smile because I looked so pretty when I smiled. I can tell you that regardless of what she meant by that, I took it as an insult. I felt isolated and lonely, and I ended up in the stereotypical "bad crowd". I was looking for a deeper purpose, a meaning to life, and believed that it was no where to be found, at least not anywhere near me. My mother telling me that I was so pretty and should smile more seemed so superficial to me given my deeper feelings.
Once a child feels left out, ignored, or abandoned in any way by a parent, it can be difficult to get her to open up and connect with you, now that she is a teenager. She may even feel an added burden because she knows that the whole situation was beyond your control. She may also be suffering because she feels bad about what her family has had to go through. Some of it may be connected to a feeling of not belonging within the family, which will extend to her feeling that she has no place within the universe (this is what happened to me). There may be added facets to her emotional issues of which you may have no knowledge. One facet, that I think virtually every teenager has, is the feeling of powerlessness. Not only are you powerless from day one in your family, but when you hit your teen years, you may begin to think that you will forever be powerless due to the state of the world. Considering her age and how the chakras develop, your daughter's problems seem to be connected to issues involving the Sacral, Heart, and Solar Plexus Chakras. However, given her current state of mind, she may also be having some issues with her Throat and Third-Eye Chakras as well.
Take heart in the fact that your daughter asked you to teach her how to meditate, as I see that as a wonderful breakthrough. That alone should tell you that she does have some trust in you. From your description, I feel that your daughter has some energy blockages in multiple chakras. I am therefore recommending that she begins working with one of our Chakra Assortments. We have many different assortments, one per chakra, or even a set that has stones for all of the chakras. She can meditate with these stones in a body layout, to help clear away the energy blockages. You can take a look at our chakra assortments on this page:
Another stone that might prove helpful to your daughter is a nice Clear Quartz Double Terminated Crystal. Clear Quartz is known as the "master healer" of the mineral kingdom, and as such, I see them as a must have for any type of energy/meditation/healing work. Double Terminated Quartz Crystals are often used by energy healers, to break up tough energy blockages in the chakras. Clear Quartz is the most programmable stone and can amplify intent quite well. Double Terminated Clear Quartz Crystals can amplify energy and emit energy from both ends, making them excellent for cleansing and balancing the chakras. You can program Clear Quartz to help just about any condition. A decent-sized Clear Quartz Crystal can become a great support for your daughter, now and in the future. You can see our Double Terminated Quartz items here:
Please take a look at our newsletter articles on clearing and programming crystals, which can be found on the following page: http://www.healingcrystals.com/Newsletter_Archive_Topics_2.html
I sure hope this helps. I imagine that you have explained your own reasons and feelings to your daughter, but if you haven't, it might be a help if you try to speak to her, woman to woman, about your own feelings on what has happened between you and your daughter. Try to be patient with her. Being a rebel is not always a bad thing, as it will give her strength to be herself in a world that seems to be leaning toward a complete homogenization of its people. Let her know that. See if you can arrange a lunch with her, in which you two can discuss what's happening in the world today. Try to encourage her individuality and to let her know that she has value within herself. Her asking for your help with meditation means that she too has those deeper questions rolling about in her head. The fact that she is willing to look within is very encouraging considering what we hear about today's teens in the media lately.
I wish you lots of luck. Please don't hesitate to write back if you have any further questions. If your daughter has any questions about crystals, let her know that she is welcome to write in also.
Blessings and Peace,