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Subject: Crystals to increase my sex drive?
Date: 01/06/2010
From: "K"
To: Healing Crystals


Love your site: so informative! I have made a recent purchase, yet to arrive. I'm getting confused though. I'm not sure what I purchased is what I need. I have been reading tons of info on your sight but now I am not sure what to do. Should I start with cleansing all chakras with certain crystals, then realigning with different crystals? I then came across the option of a bag of 25 crystals. This would be great: then I'd have one or more for all needs now or in the future. Question of that purchase is: so many stones can look alike and not be the right one, how would I know I'm working with the right one out of such an assortment? I have several ailments and family that I would like try to help also. I'm totally lost at this point. I have been in search for a cure to my most bothersome ailment that will end my relationship if I do not find a way to fix it. Tomorrow I will be 50. Several years ago around 44 years of age my sexual activity went from a score of 10 to 0 instantly. I cannot not fix it, doctors don't care, my husband is frustrated and certainly I am too. I don''t know what happened. Interest disappeared almost overnight. My husband blames the event of my daughters divorce being so stressful on me. I also had (about that age give or take) an ablation done. My general practitioner said that had a lot to do with a 0 libido because I eliminated the lining which contains a lot of hormones, and my gynecologist says that has nothing to do with it. All I know is I WANT IT BACK. Please help. A healthy, happy relationship that includes sexual activity makes all other parts of life more tolerable. Can you advise the best purchase for me please? I need to fix this area first then I will go from there.

Thank you so much,


Hi K,

Thank you for your kind words! We are certainly very happy to be of service :)

I totally understand the confusion. There is so much information to absorb, isn't there? It is very easy to go on "crystal overload" in a hurry! Rest assured, that you have chosen the correct crystals to start with. You see, we all have this gift called Intuition. Even if we do not understand why or how we have chosen a specific crystal, it always turns out to be the exact one that we need for that issue. 

If you are unsure of which stone is which, I am always happy to identify any stones that you are unsure of (Just send me a picture via email if you have that capability :) or to answer any questions that you may have.

My best advice is start with baby steps. Let's start at the beginning :)

The easiest way to work with crystals when it comes to the chakras is by color. Even if you do not know the name of the stone, the color will help you to place the stones on the proper chakras.
This is not always the case but it is a good way to start.

So-the basics-Red colored stones work best on the Root Chakra, Orange colored stones for the Sacral Chakra, Yellow stones work best with the Solar Plexus Chakra, Green for the heart, blue for the throat, teal for the Thymus, Purple for the Third Eye and Indigo for the Crown.

An easy way to cleanse and align the chakras would be to start with the Root Chakra. Lay your red stone on the Root area and allow it to sit for a while. When you feel that it is time to remove that stone (or it falls off on its own-this means it is done for now) then take it off and put on the orange stone for the Sacral Chakra. Allow it to sit until you feel it is ready to be removed. Continue through each chakra like this.

Once this process has been completed, then lay all of the stones on their corresponding chakras at once. Place a quartz point at the soles of your feet with the point away from the feet. Place another quartz point above your head, with the point facing away from the crown of the head. Then you can simply lay and allow the crystals to do their work. They will make sure the chakras are cleansed, aligned and balanced, all at the same time. Once you feel the session is over, simply remove the crystals. Give them a good cleansing. Now they are ready for your next session.

We have a very nice series of articles in the Healing Crystals archive that share information on each chakra. I highly recommend starting with the article on the Chakra Basics.
Red Tiger Eye is a stimulating stone and can support motivation and a more active sex drive.  Use Red Tiger Eye with the Root Chakra to ground sexual ideas into the physical world, or to resolve sexual issues that are causing problems in a relationship.

Ruby stimulates loving emotions, helps with the expression of love, and can facilitate states of passion and bliss.

Working with Orange Calcite helps integrate the spiritual realm with the physical body, enhances creativity, and is helpful with emotional issues.  Use Orange Calcite to energize and cleanse the Root and Sacral Chakras and to bring positive energy into the areas of the will and sexuality. Another stone/crystal that can accomplish this goal as well is Sunstone.

There are a number of ways in which you can use any of the crystals listed above. Create a healing grid under your bed, wear or carry the chosen stone/stones throughout your day, place one or several under your pillow. Charge water with the crystals and make sure to drink at least three glasses a day. On the recommended crystals above, make sure to place them OUTSIDE of the container that holds your water. Many of these are not recommended to be immersed into the water due to aluminum, fibrous material or material that may break down in the water. You certainly do not want to drink that :)

I personally recommend a "spa day" for you at least once a week. Take the time to take care of you! Place some of the recommended crystals around the edges of your tub. Draw a nice hot bubble bath for yourself. Light a few candles, put on some soothing music and RELAX!!  Invite your husband to participate *grin*

I think the main thing for you to realize is that it is not your fault in any way, shape or form. There can be one cause or a variety of causes. Work through them all with your doctor and I am positive you will find the cause.

Sending you lots of love and healing as you begin your crystal journey.

With love and crystal blessings,


Posted on January 08, 2010

  Also, it should be considered that such interaction, properly achieved with a crystal, will require maintaining all the nuances of respect that govern such relations between humans in mundane living. Each crystal will have different sensations of preference, and only through careful consideration will their detection be made, and properly addressed by the individual. Outside of sensations, each crystal will have its own set of proper symbolics, and therefore could be very favorable towards, or very offended by the particular symbolic(s) used. At its delightful best, you are involved in relationship(s) and will be respecting every aspect of it.  (Submitted by: Milo on August 23, 2012)
  To foster female arousal, a male crystal must be used. Some rod shaped crystals are male, but others are female and a careful determination must be made. Loving the crystal is essential, and should be directed to its material nature then combined with its symbolic strength.  (Submitted by: Milo on August 16, 2012)
  I am in a very similar position due to menopause, hopefully the crystals will help me get my sex drive back!! 09.11.10  (Submitted by: Carol on November 09, 2010)
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