Hi there. I am struggling with the fact that my boyfriend of 10 yrs has decided to move on. It has been months and I find it still drags me down into a deep depression. I want to be able to let go even though I still want a future with him. Since using the crystals so much of me has grown but like I said, I still fall into that 'woe is me' part of my old self. Working with my own stones I'm suddenly finding myself confused as to which ones to use even though I use my pendulum, I'm doubting its guidance. Help.
This is such a tough situation that so many women find themselves in! So first, make sure your crystals are cleared regularly, so they are not just amplifying the energy they've absorbed an making you feel worse. Second, when seeking advice from a pendulum, first create a sacred space that has been cleansed of negative energy, and then try using a metal or wooden pendulum, since crystal ones can be affected by our hopes for the answer, wherease the other materials will not. Thirdly, be sure that your intention is to receive guidance that is only from sources of the purests light, and which will be for your highest good.
To help with healing your heartache: Rose Quartz or Rhodochrosite.
To help break away from old patterns and blockages: Black Obsidian and Malachite, respectively may be helpful. (both are fast acting, so be ready for change.
To help lift yourself out of dark thoughts and moods: Orange Calcite, Citrine, Sunstone and Carnelian can be useful companions.
Again, remember to cleanse your crystals regularly (even the Citrine and Carnelian. Conventional wisdom says they don't need clearing, but when doing intense work, they need a break, too now and then.) Be patient with yourself and your situation. It's okay to take time to heal and feel whole before moving forward in life.