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Subject: Crystals to Help with Self Esteem and Trust in True Self
Date: 05/21/10
From: Jinny
To: Healing Crystals


I have never worn any gemstone/crystals for healing purposes, so when I browsed your website I got overwhelmed by the vast amount of information and did not know where to begin. So I'm asking you what would be the most optimal for the following struggles I'm currently going through:  not relying on others' validation for approval on my self-worth; able to say 'no'; set my own boundaries; sticking to my own guns; believe in, trust and express my true self.

Thank you so much! Any help would be greatly appreciated.






Hi Jinny,

It can be overwhelming, can't it? I totally know how you feel!

We have a wonderful "Issues" Guide that I highly recommend for its simplicity of use. It is a great place to start. Our Issues and Ailment Guide lists stones that work for specific issues on a variety of levels (physical, emotional and spiritual).

For your current challenges, let's look in the Emotional Section and see what we can find :)

To find the self worth/self esteem within (not needing validation from others) look for the "Self Esteem" listing. I am only going to list a few in order to keep it simple for now :) My suggestion is for you to click on the links provided with the suggestions and see what you are really drawn to. THAT will be the one to start with :)

Chalcedony, for example, clears all self doubts.

Rhodochrosite can help to embrace the self, understanding that the self IS part and parcel of Divine Source, that the self (YOU) are love and worthy of love.

Danburite helps with acceptance of self, increases love of self and expression of self.

If I can play "crystal psychologist" for a minute — all of your symptoms (Not being able to say "no", not sticking to your boundaries, needing others validation and approval, etc) come from one main cause, which is what we should address. That is not trusting in your true self. Believe me when I say, you are definitely not alone :)

To connect with your true self, your Divine Source, your unconditional love self (which is what we all are in truth), wear or carry any of the recommended stones below. Again, choose the one that feels right for you (the one you are drawn to the most):

Pink Danburite

Pink Kunzite

If I was to choose the most optimal crystals for your issue, it would be Green Aventurine and Rose Quartz.

Just remember, one step, one day at a time. This is a process. Every time you have a moment of self doubt, repeat to yourself, "I am perfect and complete just the way I am." Any time negative self talk arises (I am not good enough, etc), simply visualize putting it in a pretty balloon and allowing the balloon to float away.

With love and crystal blessings,


Posted on May 24, 2010
  Nice suggestions! When I was wearing my rose quartz with pearl necklace. My issues of saying no to people at work came to the surface. It was getting to the point where I didn't care about making a little extra money, just wanted to do my normal hours be left alone by people at work, leave, spend time with my guy and friends. My friends and guy reminded me that I don't have to say yes and I can say no and that I don't even have to have a reason. Well I was able to say no EVERY TIME this one lady who asked way too much, where I would ask does she ever work?! It was empowering.  (Submitted by: Stawr on September 09, 2012)
  Hey there. As Women we are the most powerful lifeforce in the world. Everything starts with Love and love starts with us. I too have very bad self-esteem. But as time passes, so does our insecuritys. Be blessed and be the best you, you can be. We are only in this body for so long, and our spirits are very powerful. Hope this message helps. You are not alone! ~Jen  (Submitted by: Jen on October 01, 2010)

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