Crystals to Help with Self Esteem and Trust in True Self
I have never worn any gemstone/crystals for healing purposes, so when I browsed your website I got overwhelmed by the vast amount of information and did not know where to begin. So I'm asking you what would be the most optimal for the following struggles I'm currently going through: not relying on others' validation for approval on my self-worth; able to say 'no'; set my own boundaries; sticking to my own guns; believe in, trust and express my true self.
Thank you so much! Any help would be greatly appreciated.
It can be overwhelming, can't it? I totally know how you feel!
We have a wonderful "Issues" Guide that I highly recommend for its simplicity of use. It is a great place to start. Our Issues and Ailment Guide lists stones that work for specific issues on a variety of levels (physical, emotional and spiritual).
For your current challenges, let's look in the Emotional Section and see what we can find :)
To find the self worth/self esteem within (not needing validation from others) look for the "Self Esteem" listing. I am only going to list a few in order to keep it simple for now :) My suggestion is for you to click on the links provided with the suggestions and see what you are really drawn to. THAT will be the one to start with :)
Chalcedony, for example, clears all self doubts.
Rhodochrosite can help to embrace the self, understanding that the self IS part and parcel of Divine Source, that the self (YOU) are love and worthy of love.
Danburite helps with acceptance of self, increases love of self and expression of self.
If I can play "crystal psychologist" for a minute — all of your symptoms (Not being able to say "no", not sticking to your boundaries, needing others validation and approval, etc) come from one main cause, which is what we should address. That is not trusting in your true self. Believe me when I say, you are definitely not alone :)
To connect with your true self, your Divine Source, your unconditional love self (which is what we all are in truth), wear or carry any of the recommended stones below. Again, choose the one that feels right for you (the one you are drawn to the most):
If I was to choose the most optimal crystals for your issue, it would be Green Aventurine and Rose Quartz.
Just remember, one step, one day at a time. This is a process. Every time you have a moment of self doubt, repeat to yourself, "I am perfect and complete just the way I am." Any time negative self talk arises (I am not good enough, etc), simply visualize putting it in a pretty balloon and allowing the balloon to float away.
With love and crystal blessings,